_PyTraceMalloc_NewReference() is now called by _Py_NewReference(), so
move its definition to object.h. Moreover, define it even if
Py_LIMITED_API is defined, since _Py_NewReference() is also exposed
even if Py_LIMITED_API is defined.
* Modify object.h to ensure that pymem.h is included,
to get _Py_tracemalloc_config variable.
* Move _PyTraceMalloc_XXX() functions to tracemalloc.h,
they need PyObject type. Break circular dependency between pymem.h
and object.h.