Use relaxed atomics when reading / writing to the field. There are still a
few places in the GC where we do not use atomics. Those should be safe as
the world is stopped.
Quiet erroneous TSAN reports of data races in `_PySeqLock`
TSAN reports a couple of data races between the compare/exchange in
`_PySeqLock_LockWrite` and the non-atomic loads in `_PySeqLock_{Abandon,Unlock}Write`.
This is another instance of TSAN incorrectly modeling failed compare/exchange
as a write instead of a load.
Fix data races in the method cache in free-threaded builds
These are technically data races, but I think they're benign (to
the extent that that is actually possible). We update cache entries
non-atomically but read them atomically from another thread, and there's
nothing that establishes a happens-before relationship between the
reads and writes that I can see.
Additionally, reduce the iterations for a few weakref tests that would
otherwise take a prohibitively long amount of time (> 1 hour) when TSAN
is enabled and the GIL is disabled.